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1-11-2009 爱的复杂与简单 1） 吾迪·爱伦把爱说得辩证复杂，纯粹是为了娱人，读起来象绕口令。 他老人家教导我们说：“去爱，就是去受罪。如果不想去受罪，就别去爱。但是，这时候呢，你又因为没有爱而受罪。所以，爱就是受罪；不爱也是受罪；受罪还是受罪。要快乐就得去爱。快乐，因而，也是受罪，而受罪让人不快乐。所以，为了快乐，你必须爱，或者必须爱受罪，或者必须因为太快乐而受罪。” （"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering, one must not love. But then, one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be happy, one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness."） 选自－－“寻找伴侣应该看重的第一样东西”（The Number One Thing to Look for in a Partner） 2） 专家Karen Salmansohn 总结的真爱看起来却是那么简单，完全是为了醒人，就一句话：True Love Is a That, Not a Him。 用几句英文翻译就是： True love is not a wish list but a "wish feeling." And the number one feeling—even before the feeling of love—is the feeling of safety. Without feeling safe, you will never feel true love. You must have trust in your partner's character and prioritize finding a partner who is honest, communicative, and empathic—someone who values growing—so you can feel safe to vulnerably be your truest core self with him—and then together the two of you can support one another to grow into your best possible selves. Links naar je weblogWeblogs die naar dit item verwijzen
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